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Pamela Anderson answers your DMs about sex and love

Love is complicated, right? As if it wasn’t confusing enough, in the information era it’s become more and more complex – we might be just one swipe away from the lover of our dreams, but maybe we’re overloaded by options. While hooking up is undoubtedly easier than ever, the acceleration of technology has left some people confused about what they really want, and who with.

We invited Pamela Anderson – iconic actress and beacon of sensuality, sensitivity, and sexuality – to come onboard as our guest sex and relationships editor, answering Dazed readers’ questions about self-esteem, threesomes, and what to do if your partner is overly dependent. We had a lot to get through (thanks to everyone who submitted!). We’ve taken out the Instagram handles and email address to protect the askers’ privacy and personal relationships, but each question published below comes from a different Dazed reader.

I’m with a boy who is going through an ‘asexual’ period, and I would like to know how to help him feel sexual again.

Pamela Anderson: I heard that this is an epidemic. Or maybe it’s an evolution in the age of technology and germ phobias. Does he watch a lot of explicit pornographers or video games? Does he feel numb? Is he sure of his sexuality? Too much masturbation or fantasies about cyber film stars or video games like Fortnite seem to be an addiction. Wasting time. Is YouTube taking up his time? It’s a confusing time with so much access to so much visually. I guess you must be brave – experiment with getting his attention. But don’t blame yourself. Does he share what he fantasises about? What gender? What are his fears?

Being a lover is vulnerable, especially to a sensitive person. An empath dives deep and can get depressed, and some are just afraid of love. We share our souls forever with someone we share our bodies with, and that can be scary. A computer has no attachment. And multiple bodies to look at to get excited about. It’s a dangerous time for good sex. We must do all we can to keep human connections – we are stronger in pairs. Maybe have this conversation with him as a caring friend. And look for love and a great lover who isn’t afraid somewhere else.

What was the process like, to build self-esteem and security for yourself, being conscious of all those faux stereotypes and ideas about you? I’m interested in the atmosphere that gets created around women who carry a beauty that often gets criticised somehow, as though people can’t feel, love, or have their own convictions.

Pamela Anderson: Well, I am a woman first. I was raised by fun-loving women who enjoyed all aspects of love and loving, romance and good sex. It was modelled for me on their voracious behaviors. They were beautiful and bubbly and enjoyed life. I don’t think about my image or my past. When men try to put me on a pedestal, it’s the worst. It’s isolating and lonely to be so protected. It’s also someone that will cheat eventually. Thinking you are too perfect makes men insecure and have to seek attention from others. I just want to walk hand in hand through the streets and kiss and laugh and love. But some men have a fear of treating me as a normal girl. This is what I want more than anything.

What’s your opinion on doing threesomes, groups, or ‘sex clubs’ with your partner?

Pamela Anderson: I have never had a threesome or group sex in a positive way. But to each their own. All my lovers were too jealous. Except for maybe one that fantasised about me being with a woman and watching us. It sounds tempting sometimes. But I’m too romantic. I don’t enjoy sex without love and commitment. It’s not mechanical or to show off. It’s about intimacy and sharing secrets.

Dear Pam, my boyfriend is the nicest person I know and I love him a lot. However, he’s 41, and although he eats relatively healthy, he’s not active and hasn’t taken care of his body since we started dating six years ago. Context: we’re both guys, I’m 27, and I’ve had the body of Britney Spears circa Y2K since puberty, so I don’t know what he’s going through. I want a hunky dude and I want it to be him! How can this be managed?

Pamela Anderson: You must be honest. Like you’d want your best friend to be with you. Go to the gym together. Take long walks. Go vegan. It’s better for his health. And I’m sure things will get better. Being vegan is an aphrodisiac diet. It’s a win-win. Meat makes you impotent and unhealthy. Hopefully he’s not on the computer or video games all day. That will change your body. A man with a flabby butt from sitting all day is not attractive. This creates an unattractive body. I’m not a fan of this lifestyle – it’s boring.

I’m in an overly dependent relationship, my partner is really needy. How do I break up with them?

Pamela Anderson: You must… or seek therapy. Unhealthy attachments and jealousy destroy all. And it’s crazy-making.

Someone in the bedroom says, ‘do something kinky’. What do you do?

Pamela Anderson: It’s up to them to be more specific. Sex toys can be fun.

How do you tell if someone wants you for your brains, and not just your body?

Pamela Anderson: Well, you need someone to love both. The mind is the most erotic part of the body. Stimulate my mind and the body follows.

What is your opinion on having a boyfriend and sugar daddy at the same time? Morally wrong or financially smooth for a young, broke millennial?

Pamela Anderson: I’m not an advocate of this. One man at a time is all I can handle. Plenty of sugar daddies out there. I can’t make love to someone I’m not attracted to. Not any amount of money or presents are worth it.

How can I start a polyamorous relationship successfully?

Pamela Anderson: Move to Utah? I recently met a woman who has a husband and a lover in the house. They all raised the kids together. It’s never been different, it’s a personal choice. They are happy but there is no way I could do it.

Like you, I like to show how sexy I am, but I’m tired of receiving unsolicited dick pics from men in my DMs. How do I make idiots understand that I ain’t looking for their attention?

Pamela Anderson: Block and delete.

source: DazedDigital.com

Pamela Anderson Says All Her ‘Lovers Were Too Jealous’ to Enjoy Group Sex in a ‘Positive Way’

Pamela Anderson has no trouble getting candid about her sex life.

The actress answered pressing questions from fans about sex for Dazed Magazine and revealed a few tidbits about her own life. And when it comes to sex with multiple people, the former Baywatch star, 51, admitted that she has never had a good experience with it.

“I have never had a threesome or group sex in a positive way,” she replied to a fan who asks her opinion on the subject. “But to each their own. All my lovers were too jealous. Except for maybe one that fantasized about me being with a woman and watching us.”

She added, “It sounds tempting sometimes. But I’m too romantic. I don’t enjoy sex without love and commitment. It’s not mechanical or to show off. It’s about intimacy and sharing secrets.”

Anderson, who is currently dating French soccer player and World Cup winner Adil Rami, also offered her thoughts on how technology and computer addictions are affecting “good sex.”

“Being a lover is vulnerable, especially to a sensitive person,” she said. “An empath dives deep and can get depressed, and some are just afraid of love. We share our souls forever with someone we share our bodies with, and that can be scary. A computer has no attachment.”

She added, “It’s a dangerous time for good sex. We must do all we can to keep human connections – we are stronger in pairs.”

source: People

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Pamela Anderson Talks About Sex & Power

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Each era is defined by handful of well-known individuals. Elvis dominated the ‘50s while Margaret Thatcher and Ronald Reagan claimed the ‘80s. The ‘90s however? That moment in history belongs to the likes of Michael Jordan, Bill Clinton, Matt Groening, Kurt Cobain and most certainly to Pamela Anderson. The buxom blonde towered over popular culture at the twilight of the 20th century like no other woman, and if you were old enough to have felt horniness at the time, chances are she was your top celebrity crush. Or maybe I’m just projecting, because she certainly was mine.

From Baywatch to multiple Playboy covers (she currently holds the record for most covers with a grand total of 14) and Barb Wire, Pam was inescapable in the 1990s, but after a decade-and-a-half out of the spotlight she’s back to serve as the brand ambassador for London-based lingerie maker, Coco De Mer.

She recently designed her own line of sexy lingerie for the brand so we sat down with Pam to talk it over, in addition to asking for some advice in sexiness and whether she finds Donald Trump hot or not.

Hi Pam, so what have you been up to today?

We did a photo shoot, some videos and now some interviews. We’ve been talking about the launch of my new line for Coco De Mer. It’s very exciting and it’s gonna be a massive success because the lingerie is associated with me!
Maybe people might not recognize you in lingerie. Perhaps they’re more used to seeing you naked in Playboy?

You know, there was actually a lot of lingerie in Playboy — it’s just that it was usually dangling from something.
Exactly. Dangling from bedposts and whatnot.

But it was there!
So, you recently wrote a book called The Sensual Revolution — what does this sensual revolution look like?

Well, I’ll let you know the title’s been changed. It’s now called Lust for Love and The Lost Art of Intimacy. I don’t know why, I liked “Sensual Revolution” because I think the sexual revolution gave us a lot of great things, but it also gave us some really bad sex.

I think it gave us a lot of empty relationships. I’ve discussed this with so many people from that time and most of them are alone now. So I think this book is about cultivating human relationships with romance and chivalry and all those great things, which kind of play into all the lingerie that we are doing. It’s playful about sex; about keeping relationships alive and romantic.

There probably were some bad sides to the sexual revolution, but I think we’re still better off than before when everyone was basically Mormon.

Yes and I don’t wanna go back to that kind of time. But also, we have to take stock in what we’re being influenced by and how it’s affecting our relationships and our loved ones. Especially with the internet and dating apps and having so many options. I think it’s having a negative effect on relationships. I don’t think it has to a negative thing, I just think we need to be aware of it. I don’t believe in regulation or censorship, but I think that we need to have honest conversations with ourselves about how it’s affecting our relationships; “am I addicted to pornography? Am I desensitized in any way? Am I neglecting my wife or my husband because of this? What can I do to kind of bring back all those great things we fell in love with in the past?”

So that’s how the book kind of came about. I spoke at Cambridge, then I spoke at Oxford about the same thing and had women come up to me with tears in their eyes saying “thank you so much for bringing this up.” Before publishing the book, I asked myself if I qualified to talk about these issues because I’m a Playboy playmate. But women tell me: “you’re the perfect person to start this conversation because you’re not a religious advisor; you’re a playmate and you feel the same way we do.” Besides, Playboy was titillating, it was innocent, I don’t look at it as pornography. I thought it was very girl next door.
And your new lingerie?

With the lingerie line I just wanted to do something very playful and sexy. It’s not super, super hardcore; it’s very playful yet it looks good on so many people. It’s really built for women of all shapes and sizes and has beautiful colors, beautiful fabrics. It has longevity, it will keep its features for a long time. Its good quality and inspiring people to have fun in their erotic relationships.
I think it’s really good that you’re leading this conversation because, like you said, you’re not a religious puritan who’s gonna shame someone for their sexuality. I think that most of the time it tends to come from a very moralizing, oppressive and Republican standpoint.

Right, and I’m not a moralist or a republican. Young men and women are thinking twice about their actions and how they could harm their relationships. I mean, I don’t want to grow old alone. We all want to have a partner in our lives and treat them with respect.

My dad has the best expression. He always says, “being with someone is like a mirror — if you’re doing it, they’re doing it.” So before you do it, think: “would you be okay with them doing it?” I’ve lived my life by this. It was really one of the best pieces of advice I was given because we’re all tempted. Especially now there’s so much temptation out there. But you can really have a lot of fun and a lot of romance with one person. You can be with that person forever and have everything you want by keeping it fun and fresh and having the freedom within the relationship to keep it sexy.

But don’t you think this whole idea of even being with one person forever is unrealistic and a lot of pressure to put on a relationship?

People do it. My parents are still madly in love and they’ve been together since they were 16. That was a different time, obviously, but it still exists. It probably helped that my father was a poet. He wrote my mother poetry every day. My mother’s always creating beautiful adventures and meals and they are a really funny, sexy couple. Always. That was my model growing up. Of course, they had ups and downs, but they are still madly in love so I think it does exist. But you’re right; with so many options now, it’s much more difficult. But I guess the romantic in me believes that it’s still a possibility.
That is very sweet. What, in your opinion, is the sexiest quality someone could have?

I think it’s just to be confident but also to have some kind of engagement with the world — to be involved in arts and culture. I find it very sexy when someone cares about the rest of the world, even in politics or whatever it is, not just themselves.
You are someone who’s very much involved in the world. You are involved in a lot of animal rights work with Sea Shepherd and PETA and also politically as well. You wrote an open letter to Obama about legalizing cannabis so it sounds like you’re kind of attracted to someone like you.

No! I like people that I can learn from, you know, I like people that are from different worlds. I’ve learned so much from people like Vivienne Westwood and Julian Assange, and people that have taught me things that I know absolutely nothing about. I think activism is sexy.
I find it really interesting how heavily involved you are in activism. Do you feel like you encounter a lot of prejudice?

Well, I don’t know if everyone thinks that I’m a pretty face, but I think that my career has created a certain image that people have of me. It has opened certain doors for me that otherwise wouldn’t have opened, so I try to take advantage of that. It’s been helpful in a lot of ways, even when speaking to governments. As long as I can get in the door and I can talk to somebody, then I can usually hold a pretty good conversation about an issue, be it animal rights or whatever. It’s worked, even though they want to take a bunch of pictures.

I spoke at the Kremlin in December and they’re really funny. They always say: “Pamela, we’re saving the best for last. We know you’re really going to give it to us.” I talked about environmental issues and the impact Russia can have on the environment. That they could be more of a leader. I just keep doing what I’m doing, causing problems, annoying people.

Have you ever met Vladimir Putin in your trips to the Kremlin?

Well, I’ll say yes.
You’ll say yes?

I’ll just say my trips to the Kremlin have been very effective. I’ve met a lot of powerful people and I try to make the best of it.
Is power inherently sexy?

Unfortunately, I think it is. I think a very powerful person is sexy. I think some of the presence, some of the strength and character is sexy, of course. I know there’s a real conversation about people using power in the wrong ways going on right now – you don’t want to use it negatively — but a powerful person, a successful person, is sexy.
Is Donald Trump sexy?

He’s not sexy. No.
I think most people would agree. Okay so, final word on the lingerie?

Wear more lingerie, have more sex, have more fun. It could save the world. I don’t think this world is gonna last another day the way were going, so go enjoy it. That’s my advice.

Creative agency The Full Service partnered with luxury lingerie brand Coco de Mer and global superstar Pamela Anderson for the release of her first collection as Brand Ambassador. In partnership with photographer Rankin, the campaign brings the collection to life with Pamela taking control (of the camera) in a modern take on 1960’s pin ups. All topped off with lashings of Pamela’s signature flirtatious fun. The 34 piece collection — Pamela Loves Coco de Mer — will launch globally on December 6.

Source: High Snobiety

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