Pamela Anderson Is Here to Save Your Sex Life

With her bleached blonde hair and buxom assets, Pamela Anderson may famously known as a sex symbol, but these days, the former Baywatch star and vegan activist is writing books about intimacy in the era of hookup apps.

Lust for Love: Rekindling Intimacy and Passion in Your Relationship, which was released April 24, is co-authored by Anderson with Los Angeles rabbi Shmuley Boteach, who has written more than 30 books on love and relationships. The duo paired up to encourage us to get off our smartphones and start paying attention to the people around us — namely, our partners.

Anderson, who has been through several partnerships herself — marriages to Tommy Lee, Kid Rock and two marriages to Rick Salomon — now lives in the south of France with her 32-year-old French boyfriend Adil Rami.

This book reads like a conversation between the two authors, who offer tips on how to keep the fire alive in your relationship, like meeting at a hotel in the middle of the day to have sex, bringing sex toys into the equation and touching each other under the dinner table at group gatherings. They also pull examples from the past to illustrate the present, drawing upon the turbulent romance of Napoleon and Josephine, the poetry of Anaïs Nin and the love story between Estés and Manawee from Women Who Run with the Wolves).

PAPER caught up with Anderson about online distractions and why commitment is sexy.

You recently released your new book Lust for Love. Where does the conversation begin between you and your co-author Shmuley Boteach?

We met because he was curious how my public and private persona were at such odds. He knew my neighbors who had a birds eye view of my real life as a mom and active participant in the community. We met and both decided that each of us should write a book. Then [we] thought [it’d be] even better to write a book together on the topic of sensuality. I was writing already about a sensual revolution to make up for the disaster the sexual revolution handed us in love and relationships, commitment and romance. He had such great advice for me — I was facing a difficult divorce — with all the elements of love but desensitization, modern thinking and distractions destroying my every day. Shmuley is brilliant. He has great advice for anyone wanting to be in love, and stay there.

A revolution of intimacy feels timely, what are the most important step people can take?

To not be lazy or take your lover for granted.

A lot of people are dealing with online temptations (secretly flirting with other people online, joining hookup apps). Why are you a firm believer in monogamy in today’s dating world where polyamory is becoming more popular?

Mental fidelity is a challenge, but worth it. I make sure to clear my phone and social media of temptation. I’m human after all and love is respect — I only have eyes for my lover — and I’d rather peel back layers and be brave, vulnerable and have great sex with someone I trust and love. Not just mediocre sexual situations in loveless encounters. It’s too easy. I’m stronger than this, and I demand more.

How can people make love again passionately if they’re in a relationship where it has fizzled out?

Remember what you love about that person and start there.

What is the most damaging thing to a relationship, in your opinion?

Infidelity and lies. Be brave enough to be honest.

Is one way of getting out of a porn addiction turning to the pillars of eroticism?

Porn is for masturbation — I think the most unfulfilling part of sex. It’s numbing us. And it goes with the times — fast food that is unfulfilling. We are all zombies on phones, under surveillance and right where they want us. The bewildered herd. Make an effort to come back to life. Choose to live. Not fall into the trappings. Fight back. Fall in love. It’s rebellious. Now we need this more than ever. And combat everything. We are stronger in pairs.

The book covers divorce, porn and erotica. How do you feel about those topics today?

I am a romantic. I keep trying, but I believe in respect. And know that there is someone right for you — you just do your best. Don’t be afraid to commit to someone. It’s sexy.

What is the secret for the art of making love?

To learn about the other person — a wonderland who changes every day. Learning, growing. It is never boring if you keep learning.

Lust for Love: Rekindling Intimacy and Passion in Your Relationship is out now.

Source: PaperMag.com

Sex tips from Pamela Anderson and an Orthodox rabbi

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It didn’t take long after meeting infamous Playboy Playmate Pamela Anderson for Rabbi Shmuley Boteach to broach the subject of pornography.

“She doesn’t believe that Playboy is pornographic — she considers it art. I respectfully disagree,” says Boteach, a celebrity holy man and author of 30 books, including the best-selling “Kosher Sex.”

The unlikely duo first got together in a Malibu, Calif., coffeehouse in 2016, after being introduced by a mutual friend, the casino billionaire Sheldon Adelson, who is a neighbor of Anderson’s in Malibu.

“Shmuley was curious to know how my public and private image were polar opposites — he wanted to recognize the good things in me — and the conversation began there,” Anderson tells The Post over email.

The two ended up connecting and discovering they shared strong opinions on what pornography has done to culture. In the summer of 2016, with Anthony Weiner in the headlines, they co-authored a withering op-ed for the Wall Street Journal about the perils of porn, declaring it a “public hazard.” They went on to give a joint lecture at Oxford University, with more than 1,000 people lining up to see the odd couple. Penning a book together seemed like the next logical step.

In “Lust for Love,” out next week, Anderson, 50, and Boteach, 51, write of how meaningful, passionate sex is on the decline, and call for a new “sensual revolution” that emphasizes connecting with partners in the bedroom.

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Pamela says Tommy Lee feud with son ‘a rite of passage’

Pamela Anderson has joked that the fight between her ex Tommy Lee and their son Brandon is “almost like a rite of passage”.

The former Motley Crue rocker was hospitalized in March after his 21-year-old son Brandon knocked him out during a heated argument over posts the drummer wrote on social media about his ex-wife, the former Baywatch star, after she made abuse allegations against him on Piers Morgan’s Life Stories.

The actress reunited with Piers on his U.K. breakfast show Good Morning Britain on Tuesday, and he asked her about the incident, she replied, “That’s between a father and a son.”

Piers pushed further, asking if she was upset about the drama, and a reluctant Pamela then added, “I think it’s their business and not something to talk about publicly. Everyone wants everyone to be happy but I don’t know if anyone has their own experience with growing up… it’s almost a rite of passage,” she said before laughing.

She previously issued a statement shortly after the incident in which she said Tommy suffers from “the disease of alcoholism” and her son was acting in self-defence.

The 50-year-old appeared on the show to talk about her book Lust for Love: Rekindling Intimacy and Passion in Your Relationship, which includes a passage about her sons, including Dylan, 20, being “raised by wolves”.

When Piers asked if both Pamela and Tommy were the wolves in question, she replied, “I think so… they were raised in a really wild experience, had a colourful life and were around colourful people and they have a lot to draw from in their lives and they’re just wonderful kids, very open and I’m just so proud of both of them.”

It was reported that the rocker was pursuing legal action against his son, but he stopped co-operating with investigators so the case has been dropped.

source: calgarysun.com

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